Arggghhh, 2017 has been a tough and meaty old year! How about you? Have you experienced the same ‘big’ lessons as me or has your year been much more cruisy?
As is tradition, this month, I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve been through over the past year and the difference between me 8 months ago and the woman I am today, are completely different. That’s life! We face challenges (or not), we learn (or not), we grow (or not) and we evolve (or not).
However, the one constant in our lives is that things never stay the same.
Furthermore, it doesn’t matter who you are or how ‘evolved’ you consider yourself to be; there is not one person on this planet whose shit doesn’t stink. That, my friends, is what it means to be human!
So, I’m not going to write a highly motivational or inspirational final Blog for the year. I’m not going to pretend that I’ve powerfully mastered myself, as a result of the pain I experienced through the challenges I’ve faced…
What I am going to do is highlight the key reason why I (and so many others) experienced such immense pain during the year; one word:
In a nutshell, my life was nothing like I expected it to be; and several people in my life were acting nothing like I expected them to.
I had big dreams, big goals and when those dreams and goals didn’t go according to my expectations, I lost the plot, just like any other unsuspecting 3 year old who has their favourite TV show turned off! Oh, I did myself proud!
What I’ve realised is, we as women, place immense pressure on ourselves to meet expectations and we can often place similar expectations on those around us. The end result is always the same. Disappointment, frustration and sometimes, even despair.
Life never goes the way we plan. There are always bumps, roadblocks and completely unforeseen scenarios that crop up in our lives that prevent us from meeting expectations.
So, if that’s the case, how the hell are we supposed to feel good about our lives? If expectations are so hard to meet, do we just do away with all our dreams and goals?
Ha! Not so fast! You didn’t think I’d let you off the hook that easily, did you?!
My wish for me and you, as we head into 2018 is that we desire and dream BIG… we take bold, progressive action and here’s the kicker.. we completely let go of all expectations regarding the outcome.
How do we do that?
1. We acknowledge that expectations are not serving us;
2. We agree that there is a difference between unlimited desires and limited expectations;
3. We understand that we sure as hell, aren’t perfect;
4. We know that we can’t control anyone else, other than ourselves (and even that’s hard at times!);
5. We commit to feeling into the pain of expectation and then, day by day, letting more and more of it go.
That is the path of a Woman in Progress. This path cannot be walked unless you are willing to open up to possibility and be willing to bend and mould your thoughts, perceptions and beliefs to support a life of immense gratitude and a letting go of everything that doesn’t serve you.
Ok, so maybe this Blog ended up being a little bit ‘motivational’.
However, as I stood in front of 12 amazing Women in Progress at my inaugural Savour It – Wine & Food Adventure event on December 16th, I realised that I never would have made that happen if I’d continued to hold onto the expectations that were weighing down my life.
High end ‘coach’ versus Wine Workshop Facilitator!? I’m qualified for both; I expected the former and I was delivered latter. Guess how good it felt to just step into that role, after I spent an entire summer letting go and opening up to possibility?